Hey, guys! You'll never get a second chance to make a good first impression, especially when you're looking for your soul mate. So don't waste your time, if you're not willing to put in some effort. With that in mind, here are some tips to help you make the right moves.
Cleanliness and Hygiene
Women are considered the more sensitive of the sexes and in more ways than just emotionally. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is a smelly man. Some men think that an unshaven, disheveled, grundgy appearance is sexy, but most men can't pull it off. Take the time and effort to shower, shave and put on clean clothes. Finish off with a toothbrush and a spray of aftershave and you're good to go. Keep in mind how you would feel, if she turned up looking like a dog's best loved stuffed toy - tangled fur, wet and smelly.
Be on Time
Being late for a first date sends a signal of unreliability. Even after your date realizes she hasn't been stood up, she will wonder how much you really want to go out with her with such a disrespectful gesture. It's not only a good idea to be on time but even better to show up five or ten minutes early.
Present a Small Token
Women love gifts, especially gifts for no special occasion or apparent reason. Although, the obvious choices are flowers or candy, you often learn small details before your first date through phone conversations, mutual friends, etc. Use that information to choose a gift that is more personal. For example, look for something related to music if that is one of her interests.
Manners Have NOT Gone Out of Style
Women will always appreciate a gentleman. Hold the door for her, pull out her chair, order and pour the wine. A gentleman who treats a woman like a lady, makes her feel pampered and special and she will find him fantastic.
Pay Her Sincere Compliments
One of the first things you should do is to pay her a sincere compliment. Tell her how wonderful she looks, notice the color of her dress, etc. Compliments always make people feel warm and fuzzy. Avoid using pick-up lines, cliques or going over-board. Women can quickly spot a come-on or insincerity.
Pay Close Attention to Her
Be a good listener! No one enjoys an evening out listening to one person gab on and on. Learning about each other requires give and take in sharing about each other. Show an interest in her by asking questions. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say.
Pay for the Evening
Make it clear from the start that you would like to pay for the date. If she insists on going 'dutch', don't resist. Some women find it awkward to have you pay, but most appreciate the act of chivalry it portrays.
The Goodnight Kiss!
This is probably the most difficult part of a first date - to kiss or not to kiss; and there is no easy answer. Body language is the key to making the move or not. If it feels right, then go for it. If you're not too sure, offer a friendly hug.
A Second Date?
Never tell a women that you'll call, if you really don't intend to. Many men think they can just slide by with a bold-faced lie, but it's dishonest and hurtful. When the evening is over, thank her for the nice time and how glad you were to have met her. Or say goodnight, smile and walk way.
If you're interested in going out again, don't hesitate to tell her why and suggest a specific time, day and event for your next date. Never leave her waiting for your call. Make plans at that moment.
Written
By Vanessa May
